For far too long I have spent so much energy on “calming my fire” or “dimming my light”…realizing at a young age that my doing well, being happy, having hopes and dreams and pursuing them had the potential to hurt others.

 

What I have come to truly realize is just how wrong I got it…my energy, my passion, my strength, my drive, my motivation, my fire was not hurting other people. It was firing up their internalized embers, their forgotten parts and despite how hard many have tried to convince me that I’ve burned them the reality is that more often than not they haven’t been tending to their own fires. They have been ignoring their own smoke signals. They have lost their connection to this internal warmth, their own motivating fuel and it has caused them pain.

 

My fire has the ability to spark and reignite what has been forgotten - and so does yours. This can be a painful process that activates resentment, competition, regret, fear and shame.

 

For most of my life I have been working to challenge myself to take big chances, chase dreams and be brave. I didn’t have anyone in my life that was pursuing a life they wanted, a life they dreamed of, a life that was intentional and fulfilling. The main driving factor for me has been to inspire others by showing what’s possible…that if I can do it, if it’s possible for me…then they can do it too. Because, as the saying goes, you can’t be what you don’t see. But I left myself out of the equation…do I even know if I can actually “do it”? 

 

I’ve played small for a long time because my biggest fear has never been failure (I have plenty of experience in the failure department)…my biggest fear is actually my power, my uniqueness, being my most embodied self. And I know that I am here to do work like THIS, to provide the spaces and places where we can truly meet ourselves; our fullest selves.

 

So what if the fire that I’ve been told that I have too much of is actually here to overflow for others? What if those “slowly dying or fading emotions, memories, ideas, or responses still capable of being revived” can be “transform[ed]…by a seemingly magical process”?

 

The process of honoring yourself. The process of noticing the smoke signals. The process of fanning the flames. The process of setting fire to your life. Not to destroy but to transform, not to hurt yourself or others but to heal, not to be burned but to be fueled. 

 

What can we reignite together?

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